Polarity Responders: Contrary to all beliefs

We’ve all had to deal with a polarity responder at one time or another. . . someone who no matter the situation, has to respond in opposition to everything. ‘It is a beautiful day.’

Polarity Responder: ‘It’s definitely too hot. And I think there may be some clouds on the horizon.

They are easy to spot. And, for me, incredibly fun to deal with. I love it when I find polarity responders. I relax when I listen to it because I think to myself, they’re toast. They are mine. I just give them something to respond to that is to my advantage.

Take note when you are getting criteria. The polarity responder will use the word ‘different’ or ‘difference’. Another way of looking at polarity responders is that they are ‘differences’ oriented people, people who see the difference in everything that is spoken.

Let’s say they’re disruptive to you in this way, you might say to a polarity responder, ‘Would you do me a favor?’ PR: ‘Yes, sure. What can I do for you?’

‘Only if you want to, you don’t have to.’

PR: ‘No. What is? What is?’

‘Well, what I wanted to ask you is would you listen carefully to what’s going on and if you hear that I’ve ever said something that isn’t quite in line with what you think should be going on here, would you bring me?’ ?’

PR: ‘Oh, well, absolutely. But what you say is great. After all, you really know what you’re doing.

‘Well, I know, but I know you’re going to find something, so I just want you to bring it to my attention.’

Now this polarity responder is caught in a trap. If they point it out to you, they have done what you asked. If you don’t call it to your attention, then you haven’t done your polarity. So either way you win. This prevents you from entering into your polarity response. They can sit back and walk out of the enjoyment. They’re trying to listen very closely to what’s going on so they can come up with a thing or two for you.

PR: ‘Well, you know, you said this and I was curious why.’

‘Well, that’s very important. I knew there was no way you couldn’t bring that up, so I’m really glad you did.

Well, now, are you going to mention the following? No. Because they’re going to be afraid you’re going to say, ‘I knew you were going to mention that too,’ and that pisses them off. They can’t stay in their polarity response, so they just forget.

Using patterns to your advantage is the key to persuasion and is very easy to counter. In this situation, my intention is to spread your pattern so that it doesn’t obstruct anyone else either.