If you want to be discreet when swinging

Of course, after you’ve tried a little swinging, you might want to share your amazing experiences with everyone you know. Unfortunately, not everyone will be as open as you. If you work in a conservative environment, or just want to maintain a bit of anonymity, there are several ways to go about it.

If you go to clubs…

One of the main reasons many beginning swingers try clubs is that there is some safety in numbers. If you’re there and they’re there, you’re both embracing swing as a lifestyle or a fascination. And they’re both in the same boat of wanting to have a great experience (or experiences) without feeling like their privacy has been invaded. Too much.

Another great aspect of a dark and smoky club is that many times; names are not swapped, so you can have a wonderful time without even knowing who you were with. This may sound impersonal, but it is a built-in security feature. You may find that being anonymous is very erotic and satisfying when you are in the club situation. And you also won’t worry about running into someone later in awkward silence about who knows who.

Maybe you’ll see someone at the local supermarket. Just nod, smile, and keep moving toward the milk section. Keep your name for a while until you feel that there is a special connection between you and another couple or person. You want to take your time to feel confident and secure within your swinger group. And if you find someone you like?

Meeting another couple in a public place at first will help you determine if you are ready to trust each other. Meet in a non-sexual setting to see how you interact before jumping into bed (or other places) with each other.

When you’re online…

With dating services now available at the touch of a keyboard, you are thrown into the faceless world of online dating. But this can be a great start for a new swinger. Not only can you choose whether or not to reveal your name and photo, but you can also take your time to determine if a person is right for you. You can ask questions through the secure servers available or send an email anonymously.

Using one of those free email accounts is best. Keep this play time separate.

And if you’re not sure about a person, it’s much easier to cut them off before you meet them. There are also security monitors on many of the swinger dating sites, so if you feel like someone is being threatening or just plain disturbing, please report it. You could be saving someone else some trouble.

As a final note…

Unfortunately, not everyone understands the joys of the swing, or just wants to live out their fantasies, but throw yours out. Bullies are a very real problem, so it’s important to protect your personal information until you’re absolutely sure about someone.

Do not give out your name, where you work, where you live, or any other identifying information.