Why is it so difficult to get a girl’s phone number?

Getting the phone numbers of women is not a great achievement, but many men consider it very important, and men often compare the success of others to that of women by the number of phone numbers each gets from. girls.

First, I personally don’t think that getting a girl’s phone number gives a lot of information about her interest in you. It doesn’t even mean you’re going on a date; in fact, it is very likely that she will not even answer your calls. It all depends on the interaction you have had.

However, getting a girl’s number is a step forward, and in fact, it’s the only conventional way to continue an interaction with a girl you’ve met at random.

You see, no matter how fun and smart you were with a girl; If you don’t get her phone number, you probably won’t see her again.

Attraction takes time for women

I recently wrote a post on the subject of attraction, and the main idea is that women and men have different mechanisms of attraction, that is, we are attracted to different things.

Have you noticed what makes women attractive to you? Is it the beautiful face? The size of your breasts? Your cleavage? His butt? Anyway, the idea is that men are primarily attracted to the physical looks. This is how we are biologically designed.

But women are different. Of course, having a beautiful face can make a girl notice you, but all psychology studies, and also the experience of many men, show that women are primarily attracted to a man. behaviour.

What kind of behavior? Women are attracted to the masculine traits and qualities of men. These are qualities like strength, leadership, social skills, and many others.

This article is not really about attraction, but what you need to understand here is that you could be attracted to a girl in a matter of seconds, simply because of her appearance.

But women, they need much more time. A girl will rarely know that she wants to see you again after a few seconds. Women need time to feel if they are attracted to you or not.

This is why asking for a girl’s number too soon means that she will reject you. It’s as simple as that.

So give him enough time (at least 10 minutes) to get to know you first, before asking for his number.

The importance of showing interest

There is a common belief among guys that for a girl to love you, you shouldn’t show any interest in her.

Now, while it might be a good tactic not to show interest immediately when approaching a girl, it’s a bad idea not to show any interest at all.

Think of a woman’s point of view: a guy, who was quite funny and interesting, doesn’t seem to show any interest in her and yet asks for her number. That could mean:

“He’s desperate and therefore will date any girl, even if he doesn’t like her.”

“He just wants to have sex, because it’s probably the only thing he likes about me …”

So a girl would think that you are desperate or that you just want to have sex with her. Both options are not very good for you.

Instead, you should tell a girl that you like her and show interest in her. I know the reason you like her is probably her looks, but you better find something deeper in her. It can be something you did or said during the interaction.

You could say, “Wow, I can’t believe you play the piano. I love girls with musical talents.”

Make it sound sincere and genuine. Women love to get compliments, especially if it’s not about their appearance.

Be specific: the number is just a bridge

My experience in picking up women has shown me that girls have some objection to giving their phone number to boys. There is no real explanation for that, but because so many men looked at her phone number so awkwardly, she developed an immediate “no” response to it.

What I have personally used with great success is not asking for their number directly. Instead, ask him to go on a date with you, or better yet, “go out for some beer / wine.” Women tend to have fewer objections to these offers.

The pattern of such a conversation would sound like this:

You: “Wow, I love the fact that you’re a Green Peace volunteer. I love women who believe in strong values ​​… By the way, what are you doing Tuesday night?”

She: “Umm, nothing specific … why?

You: “Well, I have a plan, why don’t we go out for beer on Tuesday night?

She: “OK great”.

That is all. Now that you have an appointment, getting her number is a piece of cake. Just ask for their number and you will get it.