How to be a goddess

I will never forget the day I first heard Pablo Picasso’s famous quote about women. It was a particularly difficult time for me. He had just (finally) finished things off with a really bad guy and was dealing with all the “how could I have been so stupid?” thoughts. I told my best girl, “N”, what I had done and she immediately sent the following text message:

“Picasso said: ‘There are only two types of women: goddesses and doormats.’ You, my dear, are a goddess. “

To the goddess? I? Really? Hmmmm. Despite my doubts about the veracity of “N’s” comment, it made me feel much better. And it also got me thinking … What makes a woman a “goddess”? What attributes and qualities does she have? What is it about her that makes her so attractive and desirable to men? And could I (or any other woman) really achieve “goddess status”?

The “N” text didn’t just make me smile, isn’t it wonderful to have supportive girlfriends? – also provided the basis for many of the philosophies found in my writing. As I continued my journey through singleness and started my blog, Picasso’s words became my mantra and inspiration. I was tired of feeling manipulated and mistreated. PLUS he looked to men for approval. I’m done, I’m done, I’m done, I’m done with the chaos and confusion that often seemed to come with romantic relationships. So if you’re anything like me and ready to trade your worn welcome mat for a crown and scepter, I hope you keep reading. Here are the ten commandments of a “goddess”:

1. She is confident and self-confident. What is trust? From what I see, confidence comes from knowing who you are and feeling comfortable in your own skin. It comes from believing in yourself and your abilities. It is NOT arrogance. No way. In fact, truly confident people are humble and kind. They do not need to brag about the approval and attention of others. They listen more than they talk and enjoy giving compliments more than receiving them. The way you dress, behave, and talk shows your level of confidence. It’s no wonder guys quickly pick up on this. When a man meets a confident woman, his value in his eyes instantly increases.

2. She is strong and independent. A goddess does not let life live her, but she lives her own life. You have goals, dreams, and aspirations separate from your love life. In fact, it would never occur to her to give herself up just to be with a man. Catching and holding him is not the end of her entire existence and she will not “melt” into a boy, trying to be who and what she thinks he wants. It is perfectly wonderful to want, and even need, a man. But to congratulate you, not to complete you.

3. She is emotionally stable. I recently read a fascinating article. He stated that most men have a deep need to be loved by an emotionally strong and trustworthy woman. When I think of a goddess, I think of a woman who is in control of her emotions. She doesn’t break down, collapse, or have seizures if things don’t go her way. She doesn’t make a mess for the little things and her world doesn’t revolve around endless drama. A goddess would never expect a man to act as her therapist. (Never!) After all, that’s what girlfriends are for, right?

4. She is optimistic. A goddess has a sense of humor. You can joke around, see the “good” in almost all circumstances, and enjoy life. She is not bitter and does not allow resentment to take hold of her. She is funny and has the ability to laugh with others and with herself. A goddess is happy with her life and her place in the world. As a result, others are drawn to her and her energy is contagious.

5. Take care of your appearance. A goddess knows that when she looks good, she feels good. Your health and well-being are important to her. She is well groomed and dresses appropriately for the situation, not trying too hard to be noticed. As Coco Chanel said, “Dress badly and they remember the dress. Dress impeccably and they remember the woman.” However, it is important not to go to extremes. A woman’s attractiveness is not determined by her daily calorie intake or by sporting a four-figure purse. Although high heels and mascara are not alien concepts, a true goddess knows that true beauty begins on the inside.

6. She will not chase a man. Can you imagine a goddess throwing herself on a man or working overtime to impress him? I sure can’t. But, how often do women act like this? We will initiate all contacts. We will “accidentally” meet him. Hell, we’ll bake you cupcakes and bring them to your office after your first date. We could also jump up and down holding a sign that says “Pick me !!” A goddess would not do this. Instead, let men come up to her and show her their level of interest. She allows a man to chase her, woo, woo; thus encouraging him to step forward and be a man.

7. She does not accept disrespect. Limits are a good thing. There is nothing wrong with knowing how you want and deserve to be treated. A goddess does not allow a man to throw away her leftovers and then try to convince her that it is a doorway. When she is treated in an unacceptable way, she has the strength to defend herself; even if it means walking away.

8. Not easily reached. A goddess knows her worth. She does not utter the “I am desperate for a man! Any man is enough!” environment. Instead, she takes care of her business. He walks proudly through his own life and carefully analyzes the men who achieve it. She is the gatherer. She is the one who chooses. And she strives to choose wisely. As a result, the man who wins her heart also believes that he has won an amazing woman. To paraphrase the famous dating quote: PLAY hard to get is ridiculous. BEING hard to come by is wonderful.

9. She is feminine. It’s entirely possible to be a CEO, a professional athlete, or have an A cup and still be undeniably feminine. Femininity does not mean acting like a little girl, a wimp, or an airhead. Not even close. You also don’t have to give up jeans and baseball caps or the chance to hang out with the guys. Being feminine is about embracing yourself as a woman. It’s about being charming and kind. It’s about radiating warmth and openness. The vast majority of men are instinctively drawn to “femininity.” At the end of the day, they want a woman who is a lady.

10. She values ​​her sexuality. A goddess is not prudish or promiscuous. Although she enjoys sex and physical intimacy, she realizes that it is a valuable gift and does not allow it to be used or treated carelessly. She will not dress overly provocative or flaunt her “sexual ploys” on a date. She waits before consummating relationships and is trustworthy in matters of fidelity. The goddess sees sex as “special” and encourages her man to treat her as a “special” woman.

Obviously, the quote of a phrase by Picasso inspired me. It is not only the motivation behind much of my writing, it has also encouraged me to think and act more like a “goddess” in my own life. And ladies, if I can do it and see the results, you can do it too.